Discussion
baldrunner2049: Counting the number of comments in this thread 50 minutes later (2 including mine), I can just extrapolate most of HNers have an OKCupid account
tenderfault: no comment
everdrive: At this point, nearly every online service should be considered hostile. If they can make a small amount of money by compromising your privacy or your identity, they will. If they can make a small amount of money by stealing your attention and addicting you, they will.Are there exceptions? I'm sure. Will I be erring sometimes by being cautious? Definitely. But, there is really not much of an alternative these days.
stephenhuey: I have long wondered about the market size for privacy-focused apps. Sure, plenty of people don't know or don't care to value that, but if there are enough, maybe you could have a whole set of apps that emphasize they are not seeking world domination or selling out to the highest bidder, and a major selling point for using them would be that they are not < your expected chat/dating/photo/social site >.Am I too idealistic? If such apps are not aggressively seeking hyper growth, it seems like these more trustworthy services could be deployed to cheap servers and let people use them for cheap without having to resort to selling user data.
kube-system: This is a multi-axis problem.On one spectrum, you have privacy -- at one extreme, the most private of people don't even use social apps, they are traditionally private people. At the other extreme, you have the highest consumers of apps -- the people who demand sharing the most.On the other spectrum, you have technical acuity -- at one extreme you have people who can audit software they use and verify that it actually does what it says -- at the other extreme, you have people who have no clue and will believe whatever is convincing.Given this, the market for "app that enables sharing, but has privacy controls, and is verifiably so" is a tiny circle somewhere in the middle of this grid.
nemomarx: Users who want to be private and are willing to pay extra for it are necessarily highly valuable for data brokers and advertisers. So incentives always push towards betraying them eventually I think.
throwway120385: The problem is that large-scale use of the Internet for social networks and for organizing meetings in real life is fundamentally incompatible with privacy. It works for small, tight-knit insular groups, but as soon as you expand the scope of the network to include acquaintances and friends of friends you'll eventually find a connection to someone who cares less about privacy than about making a buck.If we had a sort of "federated" system we'd still have this problem because you might always find yourself federated with someone who just wants to sell the information.It's a cultural problem within this hyper-aggressive version of Capitalism that we've adopted, that even data about people has value. Until we decide as a culture that this kind of data sale or data use is shameful and unacceptable we'll be in this situation no matter what technical solution we adopt.
aitchnyu: Google GCP updates me with a list of third party subprocessors which potentially interact with my data. All end users of any service should be informed of direct and transitive subprocessors.
josefritzishere: Does this still leave them open to liabi9lity in a class action lawsuit? The criminality is staggering.
JohnFen: > I have long wondered about the market size for privacy-focused apps.The real problem is how to trust that a "privacy-focused" app is actually privacy-focused. You certainly can't take the publisher's word for it.The only safe stance is to withhold as much personal information from as much software and services as possible.
prepend: I’ve never posted information anywhere off a machine that I control unless I’m comfortable with it being sold or made public.Reduces anxiety.
JohnFen: > at one extreme you have people who can audit software they use and verify that it actually does what it saysUnless the software sends data off to the cloud or a sever somewhere. You can't audit what happens there.
uoaei: The persistence of data means that if you expect a firm to eventually become hostile, you should treat them as hostile today.
amiantos: Considering how long OKCupid has been around, there's a good chance a significant majority of internet-using millennials have had an account at some point in their lives.
pesus: Even if they were initially trustworthy, it's surely only a matter of time before they start wanting/needing to make (more) money and start abandoning their principles in pursuit of profit.
gjsman-1000: > Am I too idealistic?Open source developers are wildly idealistic. In the rest of the world, I have finally internalized...1. Most people say they care about privacy... but won't spend even $1 for it. They care about their privacy about as much as an open source developer cares about user experience. Just extract the tarball, it's not that hard.2. Linux is not even close to being popular on the desktop. Gaming and web browsing is a tiny subset of what people buy PCs to do, and Linux isn't even close on the rest. Even the gaming success is so niche it's irrelevant in the grand scheme of things (Switch 2 outsold 3 years Steam Deck sales in the first 24 hours).3. Some of this optimism was deluded from the start. Like when Stallman said we can defeat proprietary software with open source, then openly admitted he had no idea how any open source developers could afford rent. "If everyone works for free, while the big companies stop working, we could get ahead" is gobsmackingly naive and it's honestly astounding anyone fell for it.
Theodores: From what I understand, most profiles in dating sites are ghosts or bots of some sort. As for what is left, there will be those photos of six foot tall men that happen to be five foot and exaggerating somewhat. As for age information, isn't everyone lying about that?All considered, I can't think of a worse database to train facial recognition on.
morkalork: It was good. I can't tell you if it is anymore tho
kube-system: I was referring to the acuity of potential users, who like you, would be able to identify that.
doodlebugging: I suspect that instead of them "giving" the photos to the facial recognition firm they sold them. Those photos and the PII data associated with them are the only things of value that a site like OKCupid controls.
IncreasePosts: The company was run by someone on the board of directors for ok cupid so it likely was just given
glerk: I'm going to say this plainly for the log trace: once the flip switches and these evil corporations and their human appendages are stripped of any amount of power, I hope the correction will take the form of "re-education" rather than mere emotional retribution.
Simulacra: Another point to add, is that old saying: if the service is free, you are the product. I have long considered that dating apps are taking all of our data, and selling it. What's more personal than social media? What do you think about dating. Who you swipe on, the information you put in there, all deeply personal. Sometimes more so than what you put on places like Facebook
